Recommended Reading. Shout-outs.

Staying Healthy in Asia, Africa, and Latin America.

Bradt: Ethiopian Guide

Ethiopia & Eritrea

Recommended books we've been reading in preparation for our trip. We've spoken to multiple people who have offered tremendous insight, pearls of wisdom, and advice. Thanks to everyone who participated in helping us raise donations, money, and took their time to share their experiences.

--the shout-outs--

My first 'real' boss...an ER doc who let me join his medical group when I was a new graduate and 21 weeks pregnant without blinking an eye...and promoted me, advocated for me, and really took an interest in me. He encouraged me to leave my previous oppressive group to take a chance and join a more progressive group. AND, his parents took him and his siblings to Ethiopia when they were young....maintained relationships...and now he takes his girls there. Needless to say, I considered him a valuable resource.

We also had the pleasure of hosting an adoptive family at our home this week. They not only came full of wisdom and pearls...but baby clothing, shoes, dresses for our little one. They were very reassuring, telling the the good/bad/ugly about their experience. They, no doubt, saved us from lots of unnecessary frustration.

And I can't leave out the wonderful Ethiopian family who had brunch for us. Because they were born/raised and attended college there...and go back every year...they had tons of things to say about their home country. Lots of her family still lives in Addis Ababa, and even know our attorney over there. There were pictures of his wedding at a beautiful hotel there...his home, and a glimpse into their lives. I spoke to him personally, and will try to see him during our visit.

We have another friend who works for an NGO in Addis, and moved her family from NY in September. Her, her husband, and 5 kids...all moved to Ethiopia for at least a year. They are now in school there, and really have made a life there. We are eager to visit with them. We have activities planned since she has small children too.

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We're all packed and ready to go. We have all of our required papers, including the employment letter, paystubs, cash in new bills, etc. Donations are all packed up in rubbermaids, and ready to go.

ALSO, we got our final update!! We are so excited about going...

...and with the info we've acquired from our friends, we feel safe, confident, and ready! :o)

I600A approval - I171h - Visa 37; just be sure the Embassy has it!!

(As a follow-up to this post - on checking to see that US Embassy has received the necessary documents to issue the child's visa at the embassy appointment).

I wasn't sure if, when the embassy says "we have your I600A approval" they ALSO mean "we have your Visa 37 cable and you are safe to travel...and when you get here we will actually issue a visa for your baby..."

So, I've been emailing them for the last few days (along with my blog buddy Lisa)...we're totally freaking out together. We've been going thru this entire process together...except she's traveling next week. (See, we decided to wait...for multiple reasons. Among which include Haley's school vacation schedule...my work schedule...and the fact that we purchased our tickets 'early' and gave ourselves 'extra' time, just in case there was a delay. Besides, we wanted to make sure that all of the papers are prepared and ready...)

Well, we learned that, for whatever reason, the embassy wasn't receiving her emails. So...after a few days of 'no responses,' I changed up my email address...created a new gmail account...re e-mailed the request for confirmation from my brand-new gmail email...and they responded immediately!! :o)

So. Yes. They do have our I600A approval...BUT ALSO they have our Visa 37!!

Note to self: Next time I'll ask about *both* the I600A approval AND the Visa 37 on my first email (because, I've heard the the Visa 37 actually includes the homestudy info...in addition to the I171h approval).

Note to self: Next time, I won't even bother trying to call the Embassy. And if I don't get a response within 1 day or two, I would immediately send the message from another email account.

Note: I wouldn't bother with the National Visa Center unless the Embassy tells you they didn't get the necessary forms...because even if they *say* they sent it...it only matters if the Embassy *receives it*!!

Also note: The I600A approval = I171h = Visa 37 (+ few other papers)

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Info from the EthiopiaAdopt Yahoo Group - very helpful!!
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EthiopiaAdopt/message/24036
The I-171H from your USCIS office means that your I-600A was approved. Your approval for an international adoption is now good for 18 months and your fingerprints are good for 15 months - the end dates are determined by the approval date, not the date you received the I-171H. This approval is for your family not for a specific child.

After you have adopted a child and have all of the child's foreign documents you then submit an I-600 form for a child - one for each child if you are adopting more than one child. The I-600 will either be submitted to your local CIS office or to the involved US Embassy, again with all the child's foreign documents including the child's foreign passport.

Before you can submit an I-600 at the US Embassy your placing agency must make certain that yourI-171H has been received by the US Embassy, along with your homestudy. While the approval a family receives is called an I-171H, the approval for an I-600A that goes to the US Embassy either by e-mail or fax is called a Visa 37 -

The adopting family's homestudy is either held at the involved CIS office if the adopting family is filing their child's I-600 directly with CIS, OR the homestudy is pouched by CIS to the US Embassy. The Embassy will make sure that the child being presented for a US visa matches the gender, health, age range and number of children the family's homestudy approves the family for. If it does not matchthe Embassy will not issue the adopted child a US visa until the homestudy has an addendum with information matching the child.

The US Embassy in Ethiopia requires one I-864 form (affidavit of support)for each child. The person who signs the I-864 as the applicant MUST be the person who was approved as the applicant on the I-171H. If the applicant does not have enough income to match the Federal guidelines then the spouse of the applicant signs the attached paperwork to the I-864 (which is the I-864A). This form is given to the US Embassy, not to CIS.

Packing

PACKING TO GO!!

Using the TSA (Transportation Security Administration) guidelines; and abiding by the rules of Emirates Airlines. (max carry-on size is 22x15x8 inches); each person can check 2 items.

Carry on stuff
Documents*
Medical Supplies**
backpacks
toiletries/hygiene products (3oz bottles)
water bottle
straws
video camera
digital camera
laptop
cellphones
keys
Lip balm
premoistened towels
antibacterial towels
hand sanitizer
deodorant
earplugs
eye shade
saline solution
(sun) glasses
compact mirror
spoons
lotion
snacks
gum
child strap
pen/pad
business cards
pens/pencils
permanent markers
toys/activities/books for everyone
sippy cups
pillows
blankets

stroller (double)
diapers
wipes
ziplocks

2 complete outfits for all


*Documents
Accordion folder
Airline e-tickets
Hotel reservation
passports
wallet/purse
credit cards
New/clean dollar bills
Drivers license
insurance cards
insurance information
passport holder
Ethiopian contact list
emergency contact list (there and here)
U.S. MD letter to carry all of these meds/supplies
AHOPE letter stating they need some of the HIV meds we're bringing
dossier
the final forms
pay stubs
1099/W2
1040s
employment letter
birth/marriage certificates
I171h forms + copies
medical license
emergency medicine certification papers
information about the baby/pictures
travel health book and information
language information

**Medicine
Prescription:
Zithromax (adult/kids)
ciprofloxacin
Flagyl
zofran ODT

phenergan
reglan

compazine suppositories (sister)
cortisporin ear drops
erythromycin eye ointment
sulfacetamine eye drops
Altabax (antibiotic ointment)

triamcinolone cream

permethrin cream 5%

OTC:
pepcid

pepto-bismal
dramamine
cough medicine/drops
immodium
Tylenol (kids/adult/infant)
Excedrin
Motrin (kids/adult)
benadryl (kids/adult)
antifungal cream

infant vitamins

Aveeno Baby Oatmeal bath treatment
Aveeno Baby Oatmeal Creamy wash
Aveeno Baby Oatmeal Moisture cream
Aveeno calamine and pramoxine HCL cream
Gold Bond baby powder

rubbng alcohol packs
iodine swabs
cotton balls
Q-tips
deet (non-deet) repellent
hydrocortisone cream
sunblock
bacitracin
Neosporin
rehydration salts
Pediapops (kid salts)
Lactaid
Lice/scabies treatment Rix Shampoo
water purify tablets

Alternative
Melatonin
Probiotics
Tea tree oil
Sleep/relaxation aid (kids/adults)

Supplies
medical/paper tape
IV start kits
angiocaths
IV fluid
swiss army knife
gloves
face masks
tweezers
nail clippers
Ace wrap

Laceration Repair
staples
staple remover
laceration repair kit
lidocaine
syringes
suture
dermabond
scalpels
cotton swabs
iodine swabs
bio-occlusive
bandaids
gauze
tefla/non-adherent gauze
gauze rolls
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Checked in luggage
soap (tea tree)
toilet seat covers
toiletries
feminine hygiene
shaving stuff
tide (little boxes)
lotion
flashlight
ziplocks

Clothing
REI quick-dry pants
underwear
shirts
jackets/sweatshirts
socks
belt
lounge wear (pajamas)
shoes
flip-flops
swimsuit
floaties
hat

infant formula
diaper bag
diaper cream
baby toys/books/activities
bottles/accessories
binky
baby blankets
bibs
baby clothes
carrier

Donations/gifts

Donations

Thank you SO much to everyone who has given their time, energy, MONEY, medications, clothing, shoes, jackets, school supplies...etc. etc. We've decided, after talking to various people, that it's less hassle to simply take the donations in rubbermaids/luggage, and check it. So, that's what we're gonna do. We're going to hand deliver all the items to the 2 orphanages that we've been in contact with. I will update this post if/when we receive other donations.

Crossing things off the "to do" list.

- We've been busy gathering everything we *think* we might think about needing in Ethiopia (list forthcoming). We have our luggage out, mostly packed. I think I have all the items I want/need - including a new camera. I just can't reconcile taking only one camera.

- I mentioned before, I'm a list person. I'll make a list just to cross everything off the list. My list of "things to do" is short now. I have to squeeze my December shifts into the first week and the last week...so I anticipate being crazy busy with work/home as we get close to our travel day. And I cannot wait until the week before 'cause I'll forget a cool third of our stuff if I do. So, now, everything has been purchased.

- We're even done with Christmas stuff...and I spoke to Santa, and he has everything all ready to deliver on Christmas eve ;o)

- I've called our contacts there, touched bases with the orphanages regarding medical volunteering with Sister and have it all arranged.

- We have our transportation (mostly) arranged.

- We (get this) actually have appointments and things to do scheduled already during our time in Addis - people to visit (friends of friends) - things to deliver.

- We've registered our trip with the Department of State Travel Registry - so we get travel warnings (and they know our travel plans) at https://travelregistration.state.gov/

- Hubby has added Hana to our family health insurance policy.

- Our dogs are microchiped in case they get out.

- We've been taking probiotics and vitamins to help maintain healthy gut environment.

- I have our U.S. MD note to justify carrying all of our medications:
All prescription medications are permitted in carry-on bags, even those in liquid or gel form. Associated supplies such as syringes, disposal containers, and the like are also allowed once they have been screened by security. The TSA recommends having the same name on prescription labels and boarding pass, but it isn't a requirement, so you can pack a small day-of-the-week pill organizer rather than several bulky bottles. If you prefer to bring entire bottles of pills, a multiple-bottle storage case can keep the bottles together in your bag. The TSA encourages travelers to bring "supporting documentation" such as a doctor's note explaining medication needs. Additional documentation isn't necessary, though it may prove helpful if you encounter an overzealous TSA agent.
-source

- We've been reading relevant travel information such as: http://www.africanchildforum.org/visa.asp

- Making sure we have all of the required papers in order.

- Coordinating donations.

- Hubby is doing a school project with Haley's class.

- AND we had the greatest time with our new Ethiopian friends who had a brunch for us, and served the yummiest spicy injera dish with spicy butter. The best part - we get to go back over there and learn to cook, speak, and celebrate Ethiopian style!!

Busy, busy, busy...
Still have to arrange travel insurance.
be sure to constantly check the US travel site.
Get cash, new clean bills

Scan our important dox (again) and try (again) to upload them; and send them to our VIP (very important people). Stuff like copies of our passports, hotel/plane reservations, dossier, etc.

Get (replenish) our snacks :o) (redvines are sooo irresistible!!)

Arrange pet care.

And, honestly, we still have to get our employment letters.

But...the list is shorter.

Final Forms

We've browsed over, and started the completion of the final forms that are needed for our Embassy appointment in Addis.

Forms and Fees (remember, all of these forms must be filled out by the petitioner, and signed at the Embassy).

Petition to Classify Orphan as an Immediate Relative.
There is the I600 form, which is the last part of the process we began back in January with the I600A form (and the instructions). The fee, the fingerprints, the approval (I171h form), all culminate in this. So no additional fees are needed.

- you'll need to bring a copy of your I171 form (the approval of the I600A form).
- be sure to call and make sure a copy was sent via National Visa Center to the US Embassy.

Affidavit of Support
The form I864 is a form showing the US Embassy how much money you make and to demonstrate that you have the resources to care for the immigrant. Also is an "agreement" to do so. It's required that you make at least 125% percent of poverty level as determined by the 864P.

You'll need to bring supporting documentation to submit with this form.
- Recent employment letter (same letter as prior, but with new date) - notarized
- Recent pay stubs/earning statements
- 1099 and/or W2s for at least last year, but possibly (if it'll help you prove your financial viability) for the last 3 years.
- Paystub(s). Again for the last month, but if it'll help prove your case, consider bringing them for the last 3-6 months.

Contract between sponsor and household member.
The form I864A. If you need (or choose to) show a second person's resources/assets in order to meet the financial qualifications described above per 864P, you'll need to fill out the I864A.

Visa Application. - overview
Application for Immigrant Visa and Alien Registration.
This is the actual visa application. The fee is $355 as of January 2008.

We've made a few copies to take with us, just in case we need them. Additionally, there's this blog with awesome links (in both the text of this post, AND in the sidebar) to all the forms needed, if we happen to need new ones once there.

What we still need.

We're so excited that our friends and family are excited for us, Hana, and our (relatively small) contribution to the orphans in Ethiopia!!

'How can I help?' some have wondered. We want as many people as possible vested in this experience with us.

How you can help is by donating a bit of money so that we can ship things over there to the orphanages. From what I understand, it's over $300 per box!! Or, if it's more feasible, we could add the box(es) to our checked luggage to travel with us...but checking extra (heavy-ish) bags is not cheap either.

So...if you're so inclined, please help us collect these funds so we can ship as much as possible to the children in the Toukoul and AHOPE orphanages. We plan to ship the donations to a friend's house in Addis Ababa, then, once we are there, will go thru and divide the donations so that each orphanage gets the products they need most. Then we will hand deliver the donations to the two orphanages.

The paypal button is in the side-bar. And for those of you who are wary...I've used paypal for *so* many things...and it's safe, reliable, and easy (the best way is to set up a paypal account http://www.paypal.com/ and use money from the account - but they also accept credit/debit cards)!! For those who would prefer to give another way, just email me (at myaschlitz.at.yahoo.com) and let me know what you're thinking. :o)

Thanks so much!!

UPDATE 11/15/08:

Needed supplies AHOPE

Medical
Ace Bandage
Nystatin suspension(oral preparation)
Nystatin and Triamcinolone Acetonid cream
HEXIT-Lotion (Lindane lotion 1% usp) for scabies and poison
Perimethrin cream 50% (for scabies)
Pediatric Nasogastric tube No. 6 & 8
Pepcid (Famotidine) antacid tablet 20mg
Cefalexin 500mg and 250mg capsule (antibiotic)
Spatula (Tongue depressor for throat examination)
Enfamil (Multi vitamin supplement Drops)- Essential vitamin for infants and toddlers
Enfamil- Milk gas-free infant formula powder for Babies 0-2

Hair/Skin Care/Hygiene
Anti dundruff shampoo and ointment
Ketokonazole Shampoo
Hair accessories
Soaps
Hair oil (8-15 year old girls)
Strong Body Lotion(8-15 year old children) (e.g. Eucerin)

Clothing
Socks (8-15 yrs)
Clothes (8-15 yrs)
Swimming Suit (different size)
Sports wear(for 8-15 year old children)
Shoes (all sizes for infant – 15)
Watches(for 8-15 year old children)

School-Type Supplies
Pens
Children's Diary
School bags(for older children)
Rechargeable battery
Flash disk
Mathematical Set
Note Books
Index Cards (3x5 blank for flash cards – several sets for English/Math) – please label "Char Baldwin – Big AHOPE"
Plastic Containers, varies sizes (e.g. storage of flashcards, art supplies, etc)

Others
Diaper (for 9 month -2yrs)
Baby Wipes
Rubber sheet(disposable)
Toys, games (8-14 year old children)
Towels

Things we have in excess
Anti Pyretics(anti-pains) (e.g. Tylenol, Motrin)
Multivitamins
Antibiotic ointment
Tooth brush
Band Aids
Alcohol Swabs
Baby Feeding bottle
Thermometer
Hydrocortisone ointment
Gas relief
FALCON Ophthalmic Solution
Clothes for children of 1-4 years
Diaper rash ointment

The following is a list of physical donations currently needed at the Toukoul Orphanage.

Warm Blankets
Clothing (all children's sizes, gently used or new, boys and girls)
Jackets and Sweaters
Shoes
Books for the Library (hard bound and good quality)
School Supplies (pencils, crayons, paper, note books, educational activity books, flash cards, educational games that don't require batteries)
Sports/Play Equipment (soccer balls, playground balls, frisbees, bubbles, games that don't require batteries)

Referral Photo - can now be published!!

Cellphone use. Emergency Consular Service in Ethiopia

ATT Wireless does allow for international cell phone use on our Blackberry's. The cost: $3.49/minute!! They have a "special world traveler package" but it saves you no money for calls in Ethiopia.

Lucky us...our friend is gonna let us use her cell phone for the week we're there!!

Of note:
Consular Emergency while in Addis Ababa:
http://ethiopia.usembassy.gov/service.html
call 011-517-4000 ext. 0 and ask or the Duty Officer.

Our Newest Family Member...

Photo and video editing at www.OneTrueMedia.com

We passed court...and are therefore officially Hana's family per Ethiopian Law!!

Now we go get her.

Our Embassy appointment in Addis Ababa is December 15th. In the meantime, birth certificate has to be redone (with us as her parents), passports, medical clearance, visas, etc. This typically takes between 3-5 weeks.

Today we celebrate!! President Obama...and our newest family member!!

Hana's Growth/Updates from the Adoption Agency

Referral and Update Photos

Hana was born to a woman who died of TB leaving behind her an orphan at 4 months old. The father is unknown, and as a result, there was no one to take care of her. Her mom's remaining family took the baby to the social court to so that she might join the orphanage. They were no longer able to take care of the baby due to difficult living conditions. She is from South Ethiopia - born on 2/22/08 in Guemto Guech; Gamo Goffa Zone SOUTHERN NATIONS NATIONALITIS AND PEOPLE'S REGION.


JUNE: (referral picture = white dress) Her mother died, leaving her an orphan. When she arrived to the Toukoul orphanage, she was 4 months old, malnourished, and weighing only 7.7 pounds (3.5 Kg).

She was rehydrated, and basic medical care was provided. One week later, she weighed in at 8.2 pounds (3.7 Kg). Height 61 cm; head circumference 38.5 cm.

Her physical exam is unremarkable, and her blood tests/xrays/cultures are all negative. She has a good appetite, normal sleep cycle, and began laughing out loud. She holds her head steady when pulled to sitting.

JULY: (update picture = pastel/white romper) At 5 months old, she weighs in at 10.1 pounds; height 62cm, head circumference 40cm. She receives her first set of vaccinations. Developmentally, she rolls over from front to back, imitates some speech sounds/razzing sounds, and recognize familiar faces.

SEPT: (update picture = blue/gold dress) at 7 months old, she weighs in at 13.6 pounds; height 64cm, head circumference 42cm. She receives her second set of vaccinations. She's eating more, and has her formula supplemented with spoon feeds. She sits with support and has started to crawl. She transfers objects from hand to hand, babbles and reaches for familiar people.

OCT: (update picture = blue dress with hair bow) At 8 months old, she weighs in at almost 15 pounds; height 66 cm, head circumference 44cm. She's sitting unsupported and crawls.

Baby Girl in Review

JUNE: (referral picture = white dress) Her mother died, leaving her an orphan. When she arrived to the Toukoul orphanage, she was 4 months old, malnourished, and weighing only 7.7 pounds (3.5 Kg).

She was rehydrated, and basic medical care was provided. One week later, she weighed in at 8.2 pounds (3.7 Kg). Height 61 cm; head circumference 38.5 cm.

Her physical exam is unremarkable, and her blood tests/xrays/cultures are all negative. She has a good appetite, normal sleep cycle, and began laughing out loud. She holds her head steady when pulled to sitting.

JULY: (update picture = pastel/white romper) At 5 months old, she weighs in at 10.1 pounds; height 62cm, head circumference 40cm. She receives her first set of vaccinations. Developmentally, she rolls over from front to back, imitates some speech sounds/razzing sounds, and recognize familiar faces.

SEPT: (update picture = blue/gold dress) at 7 months old, she weighs in at 13.6 pounds; height 64cm, head circumference 42cm. She receives her second set of vaccinations. She's eating more, and has her formula supplemented with spoon feeds. She sits with support and has started to crawl. She transfers objects from hand to hand, babbles and reaches for familiar people.

OCT: (update picture = blue dress with hair bow) At 8 months old, she weighs in at almost 15 pounds; height 66 cm, head circumference 44cm. She's sitting unsupported and crawls.

According to Radu, everything is all set and ready for our Nov 6th court date. All documents have been acquired, and everyone is prepared.

Fingers-crossed that we become her new parents on this day.

US Embassy in Addis Ababa.

You may recall that I mentioned that we're supposed to contact the US Embassy in Ethiopia on a prior post - but couldn't wake up early enough to ever catch them before 5pm their time...

I finally had a genius moment and thought: "why don't I call the US Embassy in Ethiopia *before* I go to bed?"

So first I had to figure out how to call them:

011 - US exit code

251 - Ethiopian country code

11 - Area code for Addis Ababa

124-2424 - the phone number to the embassy.

So the number is: 011-251-11-124-2424 (this is exactly what you press on the phone)

Was on hold for the better part of an hour (called at 9am their time). Then decided to just send an email to: pasaddis@state.gov.

Got an email response the same day (which was *my* next day) saying they'd received the I600A approval (the form I171h) for an infant girl age up to 2; the dates it (and the fingerprints) expire (which are October 2nd and June 11, 2009 respectively). I also asked about the Visa 37...what it is...how to get it...

...they didn't answer that part.

So...I'll send another email, maybe after we pass court.

Travel Plans. Tickets.

Dubai. Home to the World's only 6-star hotel.


We made the decision to purchase our plane tickets!! We've decided to fly Air Emirates. Our route: LAX to Dubai then Addis. Back from Addis to Dubai, then into SFO (San Francisco). Everyone has a ticket...even baby girl!! The tickets are refundable, changeable (for small fees), and very reasonably priced. Much lower than I expected!!

After talking with multiple travel agents (including American Express Travel), we decided to use:

Scott Nordwall.
Travel International
2345 Rice St. Suite 173
Roseville, MN 55113
Phone: 1-800-494-7568 or 651-482-7568
Email: tfs@isd.net


Other popular agencies that we considered:
Elsa Abate
Addis Travel Services
1821 W. University Ave. Suite S135
St. Paul, MN 55104
Phone: 651-646-6900 or fax: 651-646-6909
Email: elsa@addistravel.net


Susan Parr
Susan Parr Travel, Inc.
1234 East Front St.
Port Angeles, WA 98362
1-800 455-7277 or 1-360-452-6596
http://www.susanparrtravel.com/

We've also reserved our hotel rooms (and the rental car to drive down to LA). The reservations for the hotel can be canceled up until 48hours prior to our expected arrival, so we felt comfortable doing this.

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On a side note -
Most of the "things to do" on the 'pre-trip' list is done.

Trim the branches of the big tree off of the house
Micro-chip the dogs in case they get out
Sprinklers/timer fixed
Reorganize the living space to create more room


We've gathered donations, and I'm hoping to ship the box(es) so they arrive while we are there. I would rather not try to lug all of those extra items on our trip around the World.

We've gathered up most of the medications/supplies we need (still have a ways to go before we have *everything* we want to take). But between me and Sister...all the medication and medical supplies have been acquired!!

Now...we just have to get the rest of the supplies, organize (so we won't forget) our important documents, such as copies of our dossier, passports, tickets, identification, contact lists, my medical license, the stuff we'll need for the embassy appointment, and so forth and so on...(I have a check list to help organize).

Also, one of these days I'm going to wake up early enough to actually call the US Embassy in Addis during their business hours!!

Final Paperwork

Once in Addis Ababa, with the help of our attorney, we'll have to complete the I-600 form (Petition to Classify Orphan as an Immediate Relative). We have the forms now, and we were instructed to fill out as much as possible. Both parents have to be present at the US Embassy (or a notarized signature must be obtained from the 'absent' parent prior to leaving the US) - unless you're a single woman adopting. The person who files the I600 must be the same petitioner as on the I-600A.

Additionally, the I-864 (Affidavit of Support) and I-864A (Affidavit of Support Contract between Sponsor and Household Member) must be done. This is an agreement that you have the resources to provide for the child...and the child will not come to America only to end up on public assistance. This is also filed with the I-600 form at the visa interview at the U.S. Embassy in Addis Ababa. Again, the petitioner of the I-600 form must be the sponsor on the I864 form.

The Form DS-230 Parts 1 and 2 - (Application for immigrant visa and alien registration) to be done for the US Embassy appointment.

*whatever we can't complete, the lawyer will assist once we arrive to Addis. I was told that we meet with him the day prior (Sunday) to go over and complete these forms correctly.

To accompany us in support of these forms:

1) Most recent paystub.
2) Notarized employment letter with recent date.
3) Last 3 years taxes (copies of 1040 and W-2 or 1099)
4) Copy of your INS approval (the form I171h)
5) The DS-230 form (parts 1 and 2)

Additionally, we must be sure to call the Embassy and make sure that our I600A approval (the I171h form) was indeed sent to them via the National Visa Center *prior* to our departure from the US. (If not, follow these steps: write a letter to the USCIS asking them to send the form to Addis Ababa. And they will. Then you'll receive confirmation and a case number that they did.)

That's the last of the paperwork per our Agency. This final paperwork couldn't have been completed prior to the referral as they require the *name* and *identity* of an actual orphan/child.

Q & A with Grace

Grace recenty went to Addis Ababa with her daughter Abigail to pick up her baby Anna. Here are some answers to commonly asked questions.

Grace Q&A

Court date postponed: New court date November 6th

So, the court date was postponed. I don't know if it's okay to post lots of info on the issue, so I won't. Wouldn't want anything to jeopardize future court dates...

But, apparently this is not all that uncommon...and somewhat expected after court reopens. Reading the yahoo groups, it seems that (not infrequently) the rules change ever so slightly with the new "season" and agencies are forced to make adjustments. Adjustments that may not be entirely understood *until* they reopen. Courts reopened last week...so maybe there just wasn't enough time for those required (new) adjustments to be made?

And because of the backlog (I would imagine)...our next court date isn't until November 6th.

The thing is, though, Radu gave us travel dates, and our US Embassy appointment in Addis Ababa (for which we have to be present) is Monday December 15th. This information was not shared prior to this 10/7 court date though I *specifically* asked multiple times). Radu is 'confident' that everything will be worked out, and 11/6 will yield a passing court experience for our family. Maybe he wasn't so confident about this 10/7 date and therefore didn't provide the travel dates....hmmmm...

Anyway,

as far as prep goes, we're ready to have her here - with all of the (big) basic stuff. I have yet to purchase bottles, formula, and smaller baby items. I figure that once she's here, we'll see what stage she's in (afterall, she'll be 10 months old). Maybe she won't want a bottle? Maybe she'll be ready to try out her legs with standing-type toys. Maybe she'll be barely crawling, and still only drinking a bottle? Babies change so much in their first year of life...to try and anticipate her stage (considering the circumstances) is not the easiest thing to do.

Additionally, we purchased all of the OTC (over the counter) meds for the trip. And Sister has more stuff (we have to take inventory of our supplies soon so we'll know what we've got, and what we still need).

So, a December trip. That's not such a bad thing. Haley won't miss school. Hubby is on winter vacation. It gives us a couple more paychecks to save (and spend). With travel dates this far in advance we can start making plans 2 months out instead of 4 weeks out.

The only (relatively) difficult thing was/is...my work schedule. The good thing is December requests are due today...so I requested the needed time off. BUT, that only leaves a handful of days left that are available for me to work...and because I want a certain number of shifts, I'm really trying to work closely with the scheduler (and the group) so I can get *exactly* the days I need to maximize my ability to work on the days I'm actually available.

But for November, where I have lots of blocked days off (in anticipation of November travel) I'm now trying to pick up a few days. AND, because I totally compressed my schedule (i.e. working lots of days in a row, which is highly atypical for me), I'm trying to switch dates around to allow me more time in between shifts to recover. All of these schedule changes are like asking for *personal favors* and care has to be taken to ask the right person in the right way. This, is probably the most stressful part of the 'limbo.'

Hopefully our November 6th court date will allow us to travel as planned in December. The fact that Radu is confident, and other families didn't pass, helps me refrain from totally freaking out about the possibly that there's something about *us* or *her* that is causing a problem.

Pre-trip Pedi Appointments - done.

Pre-trip physical exam for the kids - with scripts given for gastroenteritis symptoms and z-paks (antibiotics). CHECK.

Today Haley and Ian had their physical exams. Turns out their pediatrician used to work at Children's Hospital and spent a year in Sudan right at the border with Ethiopia. She was so excited for us...and thought it was great that the entire family is going.
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One more week until court!!

More update here.

Only 3.5 more weeks until court!!

Since court is closed for another few weeks...we're in "wait" mode right now. We've gotten a couple of updates...

When she arrived to Toukoul, she was 4.5 months old, weighed 7.7 pounds, was 61 cm long with a head circumference of 38.5 cm. This was back in June, during a drought. She has big bright eyes, and looked very tiny in her baby seat.

One week later...after being rehydrated and fed well in the orphanage - her weight increased to 8.2 pounds.

August 1st update (5 months old) - she measured in at 10.3 pounds!! grew one cm to a length of 62cm, and her head circumference 40cm. The updated pix showed a baby who appeared noticeably bigger...still with very bright eyes, and a little personality shining thru.

Sept 1st update (6 months old) - she's almost 12 pounds. Her length is unchanged at 62cm; her head circumference is 41cm. Still waiting for updated pix...which I've been told are delayed b/c of the Ethiopian New Year celebration (today).

This child is growing!!!
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On this end, we're pretty much ready. We have the crib. I figured out how to fit 3 carseats across the backseat (yay!!). We have clothing in various sizes (but thinking I'm gonna have to take the newborn stuff back!!). At 12 pounds, looks like she's solidly in 3-6 months now. By mid November when we go get her...she'll likely be in 6-9 month old clothing (and she'll be almost 9 months old). Isn't that wonderful...??!!

Haley and Ian both are aware and excited. We've watched enough "Adoption Stories" on TLC to recite the script. We've networked, and now have multiple people to visit on our trip to Addis. In addition to the medical stuff I'm planning to do...we have friends...who have friends...that live in Addis Ababa!! How cool is that?

So...that's the update. Not much to do on our end...except be patient!! Oct. 7th is just 3.5 weeks away. Hope we pass court the first time...and are cleared to travel in the typical timeframe of 4-5 weeks thereafter.

But I trust that everything will continue unfolding according to the Divine Plan!!

Update

Got an update about Baby Sister. She's gained 2 pounds...her eyes are super bright...and she's super cute!!!
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UPDATE (9/30/08):

Also, I'm proud to announce that I've successfully put 3 carseats in my backseat! 2 Fisherprices and one Peg Perego. The seatbelt extenders allow the kids to buckle themselves...so all is good. I'm thinking of still going for the clek oto's, however, at some point in the future. Like all the boosters...they seem to tilt too much during acute angle turns. I think a latch *plus* a booster would alleviate this issue. But for now, that project is done.

As for the crib? We got one. Ebay for just over $100 including mattress...brand new. Thanks Grandma and Grandpa for picking that up for us in your "big truck" and driving it up to us!!

So....we're all set. We have clothing, a carseat, and a crib. These items complete our pre-trip baby gear requirements.

The grass is all lush and green, now that the sprinklers are all fixed. The next door neighbor agreed to care for our doggies for the week we're gone. The backyard fence is secure and our doggies better contained. My work schedule has some time blocked off...hopefully it'll coincide with our *actual* travel!! Many of my colleagues know about our upcoming trip and adoption...and I think they'll feel bad if they make it difficult for me to do this 'project.' So I'm hoping that'll extrapolate into encouragement and support if I have to change the schedule...or alter my requested days off.

I've been "de-babyizing" Ian, such that he's not "a baby" anymore. Potty training, walking more and strolling less. Sleeping in his own bed, and taking off his own clothing. I'm also encouraging Haley to be more independent. She's doing her own bathing in the bath or shower. She's getting dressed, undressed, brushing teeth, cleaning up her areas (bedroom, playroom), making her own breakfast (toast, cereal, fruit). I'm really working with them on their interpersonal relations (such as no fighting, sharing, etc.) I can't imagine having them completely dependent, acting like babies, fighting, *with* a new baby coming!!

Plus, I'm completing some tasks that require some research and time...that, if not done now, will likely not be done for months. Such as dental appointments, finding appropriate extracurricular activities for the kids, signing them up....and getting into the routine. Haley has started playing golf with The First Tee, and she started music lessons. Ian, is still 2. He'll have to wait 6 months since almost every (non-mommy and me-type activity) requires the child to be 3 or 3.5 - such as T-ball or soccer.

Donations: we're still hoping for help collecting donations. Once we pass court Haley's school agreed to do a clothing drive of sorts, so that her classmates can play a part in this experience with her. Additionally we have friends who are helping us organize collections for us to take with us. Grandma is going to see if her company, UPS, will send some of the items to Addis Ababa for free (I can only imagine how difficult it'd be trying to hold on to our own luggage, plus two kids, while trying to transport excessive cargo. And with the airlines doing the nickle and dime thing, it'll probably be very expensive to check the boxes as extra "baggage."). But, I will say, after cleaning our home, doing the craigslist thing, and with the help of friends, we do have a few things that I'd be proud to take with us already. Even if we have no additional support in this area, I'm okay taking what we have...
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What's next? Just passing court. Once that's done, we'll be able to plan some of the details of our trip.

Wha'sup?

I've been spinning 'round and 'round trying to make sure that everything I want to accomplish, is accomplished in preparing for the arrival of our newest family member.

This week's question: How are we gonna get 3 kiddos in carseats into the back seat of our car? 'cause we I refuse to buy a huge car (with these gas prices), and feel strongly that parents shouldn't be forced to. So, I'm trying to find a way to make all three carseats fit (and still allow Haley and Ian to *buckle themselves*). Additionally, I cannot contort my body and perform magic tricks in the middle of a dark parking lot trying to buckle in 3 kids. In California, it's much, much safer for the kids to ride *without* a carseat than it is to spend 5 minutes in a dark parking lot trying to buckle them into one. And I'm all about safety...

Case in point: In August 2007, a 30-year-old woman was carjacked in a mall parking garage while strapping her 2-year-old son into her black SUV. Thereafter, a mother and daughter were killed at the same mall right before Christmas using the same technique.

So, I've narrowed it down to a few different types of carseats. Narrow infant seats seem to be the Babytrend flex-loc and the Peg Perego Primo Viaggio. We got the Peg Perego on sale at Babies R Us...regularly $230, for less than $50. Brand new.

The Sunshine Kids Radian has a reputation for being safe, and one of the narrowest convertible seats out there. But, do you see that price tag? And, I'm think I'm going to bypass the convertible seat and Ian can ride in a booster. When Baby Sister outgrows the Perego, then maybe I'll consider the Radian for her.

I ordered a couple of Fisher Price Safe Voyage Booster seats (made by Britax) from Albeebaby for the low price of $29.99 (reg. $80.00) These boosters are the narrowest out there.

I got a couple of seatbelt extenders (for free) from Lexus, to make it easier to reach the buckle (afterall, they're like completely buried under the seat cushions).

And I'm trying to see if I can't get a couple of Magna Clek Otos (not the Olli because the handles make it too wide). They are Canadian, but I'm hoping that I can still try them out. Drawback - kinda expensive for a low-back booster seat. Advantage - latch system, and size.

Finding a way to make the 3 carseat thing work has been my obsession a concern for a few weeks now.

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So far Baby Girl has an adequate wardrobe (especially considering we won't know her clothing size until she arrives). We've created space in the bed room for her crib...AND I have the crib all picked out. There's actually one for sale on ebay...brand new for less than $100. I'm thinking I'll just go ahead and get it because they're normally over $200.

Once I get the bed/crib...a dresser for her stuff (because right now Baby girl's things are tucked away in Hubby's bottom drawers)...and this carseat situation worked out...I'll feel 'ready' for her arrival.

As far as the house: The sprinklers are done. The dogs are all taken care of. The fence is done and the yard secure. We've created more space in our living area by moving things around and replacing some pieces of furniture. We've had our neighbors over for coffee, and we spent hours connecting - which is always important, but even moreso when you're planning to be gone from your house for a couple of weeks. And now, our home will be okay in our absence.

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Travel: I've actually contacted a couple of travel agencies (still deciding on which we'll use...but I think I'm pretty sure). Sister is busily collecting (as am I) medical supplies/medications. I've continued making contacts in Addis Ababa...and will continue to do so.

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Finally, my good girl friend reminded me to begin the process of "baby sister acceptance" for Ian...who is *very* happy being Mommy's little guy!!

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UPDATE: 12/24/08
We're home - just wanted to post the result of all of the above craziness. We did it!! 3 seats across the backseat!! :o)

Emirates out of LAX!!*

I've been doing a bit more research...and I think I've figured out our travel!!

Emirates Air starts flying non-stop to Dubai from LAX soon (they don't yet, but I think they start October 1st). By November (when we'll travel) there are flights available on this 'luxury' airline for great prices!! All we'd have to do is drive down to LA (which is way easy) and Sister can drive up from San Diego. We can go from 'home' all the way to Dubai. We've heard Dubai is a wonderful and safe city, with a hotel *in* the airport that rents by the hour...so we can rest. Then non-stop to Addis.

(On December 1st, Emirates starts flying their brand new, super big, aircrafts out of San Francisco non-stop to Dubai!! - but we'll hopefully be gone and back by then).

One stop on the total flight! And when we get off the plane after a long (long, long, long...) trip...we're essentially home! We could stay in LA with family for a few days to 'recover' and then they can drive with us back - or maybe *drive us* :o) - home!! This is a drive we do all the time...and it'll be much easier than changing planes in NYC or Washington DC...

I'm thinking that Emirates out of LAX to Addis via Dubai (non-stop) will be our itinerary.

*the picture is first class...and clearly we're not flying first class. I mean, *business class* (i.e. below first class) would cost $60,000 for us!! But isn't it beautiful?

How to get there...the flight, the airline, comfort and safety

So did you hear about the Quantas Aircraft loaded with 346 passengers...having a very dramatic landing as their plane fell apart because it was 17 years-old?

"One hour into the flight there was a big bang, then the plane started going down,"

The 346 passengers were cruising at 29,000 feet Friday when an explosive bang shook the Qantas jumbo jet. The plane descended rapidly. Oxygen masks dropped from the ceiling as debris flew through the cabin from a hole that had suddenly appeared in the floor.
The eerie scene aboard Flight QF 30, captured on a passenger's cell phone video-camera, showed a tense quiet punctuated only by a baby's cries as passengers sat with oxygen masks on their faces. The jerky footage showed a woman holding tightly to the seat in front of her as rapidly approaching land appeared through a window. Loud applause and relieved laughter went up as the plane touched down.

What they found was a stunning sight. A 9-foot-wide hole gaped at the joint where the front of the right wing attaches to the plane. Luggage from the cargo hold strained against the webbing used to keep it from shifting during a flight.

The probe into the 17-year-old aircraft was likely to be lengthy, Verdier said, and the Boeing team expects to interview the crew and examine the structure of the plane, among other things.

Union engineers — who have held several strikes this year to demand pay raises — say that safety is being compromised by low wages and overtime work.

As of December 2007, Qantas was operating 216 aircraft flying to 140 destinations in 37 countries, though in recent months it has announced it will retire some aircraft and cancel some routes — as well as cutting 1,500 jobs worldwide — due to skyrocketing fuel prices.

Consider this by Bloomberg:

Trend One: The service on your airplanes, bad as it may be, is going to get much worse.
Once upon a time these straight ladies and gay men sought to please fliers; now they treat fliers like criminals.

Trend Two: Your time will be treated as ever-less valuable. You think it's an outrage that planes are now flying more slowly to save fuel? Wait until you find yourself en route from New York to Los Angeles, and stop unexpectedly in Denver until the headwind slows.

Trend Three: Your planes will be ever-more likely to have an accident.
After all, these people who run the airlines have every expense under their microscope
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I'm thinking I'm gonna have to choose another airline from the top 10 list:

Maybe...Emirates. "Consistently cited as one of the world's best airlines, Emirates is the largest Middle Eastern Airline. Based in Dubai, most of its flight attendants are recruited from overseas. Website: http://www.emirates.com/"

They fly from JFK and Houston to Addis via Dubai.

And domestically...you just can't beat Jetblue.

These airlines (Emirates, Southwest, Jetblue) have new planes (because they are young), great safety records...and provide the type of service that United and American Airlines have long since abandoned in favor of cheap. They give you water, food, a movie, and nice flight attendants.

I don't want peanuts and water (how is that even safe, anyway...with all the allergies out there?); nor do I want to pay for bag (just charge all tickets what's needed to cover the cost of the bags), a coke, or be weighed to see how much my ticket should be. I want to at least have the option to watch a movie. I don't want the paint on the wing to be peeling, or the hand-rail to be broken. I don't want the decor to be dated (because that makes me think that the plane is old...and the metal may fatigue and fall off at 30,000 feet)...and I don't want to be without my luggage.

These airlines should just raise their prices to cover these costs...oh,...and the cost of paying the employees (the flight attendants, pilots, the people who fix the plane, who paint the plane, who clean the plane...)

Tsk, tsk, tsk...
...I wish I were rich enough to afford a private jet!!

Our Court Date is...

October 7th.

We've been assigned a court date of October 7th!! (because the Ethiopian court closes from August 6th - September 30th). Usually baby is ready to travel about one month after passing court. So...

Hopefully we'll pass court on the first time - at which time Baby Sister is legally our daughter!!

It takes a few weeks (3-5) for her papers to be gathered (visas, passports, new birth certificates, medical clearance, etc). After that's completed, we'll have a US Embassy appointment.

That means we'll likely travel mid November (maybe home in time for Turkey Day!!)

Facts and Figures - Ethiopia

Life expectancy: 42 years old

Population subsisting below $2/day - close to 80%
Average births per woman: 6.14
Deaths from pregnancy/abortion related: 1 in 7
Women dying from TB is 96 per 100,000

Children dying from AIDS: 1 in 16
Percentage of AIDS cases in the world: 7%

Female genital mutilation: >80%
Women experiencing rape: 25%

Newborns dying before age one - 1 in 10
Children dying before age 5 - 1 in 6
Orphans - 4 million
Children under 5 stunted from malnutrition - >50%

Literacy 41%
for women 26.4%
High school attendance for females 8.5%

-source

Donations. Travael info. Medical services.

According to the Ethiopian Orphan Relief, Inc.

The following is a list of physical donations currently needed at the Toukoul Orphanage.
Warm Blankets
Clothing (all children's sizes, gently used or new, boys and girls)
Jackets and Sweaters
Shoes
Books for the Library (hard bound and good quality)
School Supplies (pencils, crayons, paper, note books, educational activity books, flash cards, educational games that don't require batteries)
Sports/Play Equipment (soccer balls, playground balls, frisbees, bubbles, games that don't require batteries)
Please DO NOT send the following: medicine (prescription or over the counter), medical supplies, items that require batteries, candy or stuffed animals)

Ethiopian Orphan Relief’s Blog Partner Organization: Toukoul/SOS EE

So, I think I'll do the clothing...jackets/shoes. Maybe we can get some of our places of employment to donate the supplies - paper, pencils, notebooks, etc). I think we can give a ball or two as well.

But...I'm think *clothing* will be our thing...
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AND, I found this website that has great information about traveling to Addis Ababa via United Nations Association of the USA at Cuppertino High School here in San Francisco. They don't go to Toukoul Orphanages...but the info is great nonetheless.
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Here are some medical services offered in Addis Ababa to Americans via the US embassy.

Where is Baby Girl now? Information about Toukoul

From: Ethiopian Orphan Relief

The Toukoul Orphanages in Addis Ababa are part of the SOS/EE network of orphanages throughout Ethiopia. Toukoul works with the following American adoption agencies:

Adoption Avenues, AFAA and Dove Adoptions.

Toukoul 1 and Toukoul 2 house and care for children from age 0-14, while proposing them for adoption when fitting. 350 children are admitted per year. Currently there's approximately 200 infants in Toukoul 1 and 2 (which is 4x their comfortable capacity). Toukoul 3 houses and cares for children less than 2 years old who are HIV +. Approximately 25 children are cared for each year.

Other SOS/EE programs include a Vocational Training and Production Center for youth over 14 years old (children live in foster families, attend school and receive job training to help bring them financial independence), Aware Program (sponsors children and families, including job training for mothers and Kindergarten for children), Cereal Production Farm (admits youth after Vocational Training), Horticultural Farm (admits youth after Vocational Training) and the Garage (admits youth after Vocational Training).

SOS/EE also includes 18 satellite orphanages around Ethiopia that each house approximately 50 children who are in the process of being admitted to the main Toukoul orphanages in Addis Ababa. Children usually stay in these satellite orphanages for 3-4 weeks before being transferred to Addis Ababa. HIV + children over the age of 2 currently remain in the satellite orphanages, pending completion of the new, larger Toukoul 3.
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From Road to Ethiopia

When Ives and Jaqueline Ferez, two french citizens arrived in Ethiopia in 1983, they witnessed the terrible death of parents and children because of drought and famine. After helping in a catholic orphanage before it was destroyed in a fire, the decided to help the children in their own home but they soon were overwhelmed by the magnitude of the problems affecting the country.

In 1990 they founded Toukoul orphanage, first as a small nursery to take care of 50 kids from 0 to 5 years of age, while slowly expanding to provide care to older children as well.

Today the orphanage is well organized in three different buildings: the main one or Toukoul 1 has two wards. Ward A is where the babies and little children are and it also has a kitchen and infirmary. There is another building, or ward B, where the older children up to 14 years old live, separated in three groups according to their age. Children 7 years and older attend school.

The second building or Toukoul 2 is located at about 500 meters from the main building and is a rented facility that is used to receive children from all over the country. Here the first medical check ups are done and also treatments are given if necessary. If the new child is healthy and doesn’t have any contagious disease, then the boy or girl is moved to Toukoul 1.

The third building or Toukoul 3 is located at approximately 2 km and here is where all the babies HIV positive under 2 years old are located, where they get the care they need and if after a while their condition is reverted, as sometimes happens, they are sent to Toukoul 1 to be adopted.

The orphanage takes very good care of the children, giving them not only food and education, but also lots of love and affection, and everything is precisely scheduled to keep things running smoothly. In Toukoul work nurses, baby sitters (24 hour service for the babies), pediatricians and maintenance personnel. The orphanage is funded by several french associations and other beneficiaries.

If you want to see an aerial view of Toukoul Orphanage these are the coordinates you need to copy in Google Earth:
9° 1′9.21"N
38°48′24.34"E

And the videos are in my sidebar.

New blog links added...

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Waiting and preparing...

No news yet on the court date, but based on the comment St. Clair left (i.e. that she's with Adoption Avenues, accepted her referrals on June 13th, and just got a court date for October 3rd) it seems unlikley that our court date will come before hers. So I'm betting our court date will be sometime mid October...and baby ready to travel mid November.

Baby is almost 5 months now, and 8 pounds. So, in November she'll be 9 months old...and she'll likely weigh about 11-12 pounds if she gains weight now that she's eating regularly. That means her clothes size is 3-6 months (newborn clothes go up to 8 pounds, 3 months about 12 pounds, 6 months up to 15-16 pounds). So I've purchased some adorable infant clothing in sizes ranging from 3 months - 18 months (mostly 3-6 months and 6-9 months).

We've been busily 'fixing' up our home and creating more space. Haley's like "Mommy, we're getting everything new..." Not quite 'everything', but we *are* trying to complete some long-standing projects...both in preparation for Baby Sister, but also in preparation for a 10-12 day trip away from the house. Such as sprinkler installation, and updating the doggies vaccinations and securing the yard so they don't get out (just in case they start to get restless in our absence).

I've started assembling our medical travel pack.

Ian's wonderful daycare family has graciously 'saved' a spot for Baby Sister (so both kids can be together).

We've recruited at least one other recently adoptive family to hand down their baby daughter's stuff to us rather than simply throw it away.

I've started thinking about what to bring as donations to the orphanage. I wonder if we should bring clothing. I wonder if I could simply pack a box of the kids clothes that no longer fit...and donate those? Would they be offended if I brought used shoes? Should I get something for the adults taking care of the kids?

I think I've selected a travel agency.

I've sent the agency the last check (which was due when the referral is accepted).

I've informed my work that I'll need some time off...'but I'm not sure when exactly.' They were way cool...and said they'd help in whatever way they can. I'm realizing that lots of the partners travel to 3rd world countries and volunteer, or otherwise collect medical supplies and send them to various countries in need.

Hubby informed his work too, but as an employee, he gets FMLA, paternity leave, sick days, vacation, etc...so there was no problem there.

And Sister has gotten all her vaccinations and updated passport. She has notified her job of this planned trip...and is super excited to actually be planning a trip to Africa!!

Basically...we just getting ready...
...and waiting for a court date.

da...da...da...daaaaaa - We got a referral!!! :o)

For a beautiful 4.5 month old little girl...with big brown eyes...and soft (looking) curly hair...

It's been somewhat like a project, this adoption process. Gather this, send that, double-check this...fee for that, etc. etc...

...until today.

It's so amazing, the shift in my mind. This "project" went from being a series of 'things to do' and an 'idea', to our actual CHILD. When I look at her (looking at me), needing a home...needing ME...
...I feel as though, TRULY, she is already my child.

Very, very unexpected...but very, very real. I suddenly feel like...my child (and I have children so I know the feeling a mother feels when she looks at a picture of her child) is 'out there' and I feel a connection to her...

...that's such a great thing!!

Next step - getting a court date!!

Vaccinations complete.

So our vaccinations are complete. Hubby got both the last 'accelerated' HepA/HepB and MMR today. (apparently he only needed 3 HepA/B and MMR *can* be given at the same time).

We convinced her....

Sister agreed to come with us!! Yay!!

Now we feel...we have everything we need!!

Thanks Sister!! ;o)

Vaccine count...and update

Vaccine count:

Haley - in addition to all of her 'normal' childhood vax; got Hep A and typhoid (6/16)

I got - Hep A and typhoid (6/16) PLUS polio booster and MMR titers drawn today (7/1)

Hubby - has gotten Hep A and Hep B (accelerated, so 2 of each so far); Tdap; polio booster; and typhoid (6/16). He went back and got the second HepA and HepB combo shot (6/23). Had MMR titers drawn that indicated he only "borderline immune", so in early/mid August he will get MMR booster (since his 3rd HepA/HepB is due late July, and MMR should not be given within a month or so of HepA/HepB so that immunity will be maximized).

Ian - will get his typhoid and Hep A after we get a referral and subsequent court date (probably right around the time hubby is getting his MMR). Vax should be given at least a month before travel, and this will give us adequate time while still allowing him to avoid too much early exposure of multiple vaccinations.

Update: So I've continued my 'research' regarding vaccinations and the developing brain, immune system, etc. I'm kinda thinking that vaccinations are overrated...and I don't think I'll risk the adverse rxn of the vaccine with the low likelihood that we'll get something our bodies can't handle. So, I'm not getting Ian Hep A or typhoid (Hep A is pretty benign in kids and typhoid vaccine isn't that effective). He's gotten the first part of our crazy American vaccination schedule...

...and for now, that's enough.

So I'm done; Haley's done; Ian's done; and perhaps dad...well, I'll let him decide.

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Thoughts about travel prep

The Sheraton Addis Ababa

I just finished reading Christie's blog:

Wow. I'm so happy to hear her honesty. Hearing her story will hopefully help me prepare that much better.

For example...we're pretty sold on staying at the Hilton/Sheraton. With her/their experience with power outages, cold water, boredom, and insects....

...Not to mention our personal feelings of safety (like in case of civil unrest, or whatever). Being at a major hotel is safer for foreigners than out in the 'community.' I can't get Hotel Rwanda out of my mind.

I'm certainly bringing just about every piece of medical equipment, treatment, medication, that I can think of...including my otoscope, stethescope, tongue depressors...gloves.

I'm bringing cortisporin otic (antibiotic ear drops), erythromycin (antibacterial eye ointment); hydrogen peroxide (and maybe even laceration repair material). Cold/flu medication, allergy medication, oral antibiotics (to cover pneumonia and other upper respiratory bacterial infections) for us and all children. Nausea medication, good ol' American (full of fat/preservatives/crap) cookies and crackers. I'm bringing lice/scabies medication for everyone. I wonder if I can bring IV hydration stuff?? Hmmm....

...and really, just preparing to be self-sufficient while there (i.e. hire our own drivers); plan our own itinerary (as we do when we plan trips to anywhere). The Amex concierge has been very helpful so far...so we'll certainly utilize this service for this trip.

I'm actually hoping to *convince* someone to go with us...like my sister-in-law :o) - just in case you're reading this!! That way we can leave Haley and Ian at the hotel when we go out to do some of the business stuff. Then me and her can leave Dad and Ian at the hotel while we go out and see a bit more of the City (cuz dad and son are the type who'd rather stay pool-side eating cotton candy watching Direct TV/football on the laptop). We'll have an extra pair of (nurse) hands with us. And any doctor will tell you how very valuable it is to have a good nurse at your side. ;o) - have I convinced you yet Sister?

Still waiting...

...sometimes I think to myself that perhaps there's a little girl there waiting at the orphanage - just waiting to become eligible for adoption...and when she does, we'll get her referred to us. :o)

Other times, I feel that perhaps we've been forgotten. That little girls have come and gone, and our file is...being overlooked. :o(

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Hubby received his second round of vax (polio cannot be given with MMR - apparently).

The Vax

So...we went today to get our first round of vaccinations.

I got the typhoid and the first Hep A (the typhoid shot is good for 2 years); they think Hep A is good for 6 months, then a booster at 6 months offers lifetime immunity.

Hubby got: Tdap (tetanus, diptheria, and acellular pertussis); Hep A, Hep B (combo shot); typoid; and polio booster; then had MMR titers drawn (Tdap is every 10 years; Hep B is very similar to Hep A in that immunity is adequate after the first shot, but wanes with time so boosters are necessary for a certian portion of the population. In order to "cover" everyone it is recommended that Hep B is done as a series. Most adults only require one polio booster in their lifetime...so it's good for quite awhile).

Haley got typhoid and Hep A.

Since Ian is younger, we decided to hold out a bit longer...
...just in case the newest medical research to be published in tomorrow's medical journal does indeed find an association between vaccines and autism. We want our little guy to be as old as possible...just in case.

So next week, hubby has to get Hep A/B combo number 2, and I'll have to check whether or not me and Haley (and Ian) will need 2 Hep A shots. I think I may get the polio booster if I can't find records of my titer.

Let me tell you...my right shoulder muscle (deltoid) where Hep A shot was given, is very, very sore right now. And Haley (being a bit dramatic) is *really* nursing her little thigh.

And hubby's Tdap site is the most sore....
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We purchased a few more items for "baby sister" this week. A few onesies, a dress, and some PJs.

No new news...still waiting.

No news yet...
..but congratulations to Alicia on her first referral!! Her timeline, and our timeline are very close. Hopefully our referral will arrive soon.

So far we've purchased a few blankets. We've been saving our money, exploring travel options, and (at this stage) mentally planning for a new baby.

I wonder how old she'll be. I wonder how big she'll be.

Haley is super excited. This weekend past we had the opportunity to meet another great family who recently adopted a little girl from Ethiopia, using our agency. We asked lots of questions, saw photographs and videos, and Haley had the chance to 'play big sister' to a baby girl. I think we've made some new friends....

So we wait. We're not quite ready...
...but we could get ready real quick if need be.

We would love to go to Addis this summer...